The Road Not Taken- Choose the Glamorous One!

Hello love!

Today I woke up to the sound of my doorbell. I only opened the door at the second ring, I couldn’t imagine who would need me that early a day, it was 8 in the morning. Anyways, I got up and had to realize that I was rudely awakened by- the police.

No drama, it was only because of my brother who apparently decided to go a few miles per hour too fast. But that was it with my sleep, I was wide awake by now. So I though: Yay, studying! Seriously, my first thoughts was that it was good I woke up that early, because now I had more time for studying.

I love what I study, I really do. But all that learning really robs most of my energy.

But, I wanted to find out what it is, that takes up all my energy. I found out: It was not the studying itself, but my attitude towards it. My thoughts would range from “I will never get all that stuff into my brain” & “Everybody else is smarter than me” to “Ok, I will quit. I will just do it. I’ll never manage to remember everything so basically I’m just a bad student”.

But wrong!

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I was not a bad student, only because others knew different things than me (and I might know things they don’t!), or only because I didn’t read that whole text about Slavery in the Old South. I was a great student, because I managed to write that paper on Heidegger’s Letter On Humanism even though my knowledge about philosophy is incredibly limited. I was a great student because I researched Edwards Sinners in the Hands of an Angry God, and thus was able to explain it to fellow students.

What I am trying to say here, is: We always have a choice. We always have the choice to take the positive way. Of course, we could endlessly wallow in self-pity, or belittle ourselves. But what’s the use? By using up your thoughts for the negative in the world you’re doing neither good for yourself nor for others. Decide to think the positive thought and feel how this will inspire you and enrich your life. Feel, how warmth will unfold inside your chest. Catch yourself smiling in the bus, just like that. Just because you can. Just because you deserve to feel all the happiness and positivity in your life. Just because you matter and you can add some magic to other people’s lives by it. Positivity is something so rare in our society. Make it the standard.

Magic kisses,

Josephine

Let’s make some magic!

Hello, wonderful reader,

as it is the time around New Moon, things change, new impulses come to our lives, old happenings we haven’t yet processed come back to our minds and we might even feel the need to change something in our life. Drastically.

You might know, that I am following Gala Darling quite excessive (in a positive way, really!), so of course I read about her article on the time around new moon. Gala introduced some rituals to me, as how to make the best out of this exciting time. I decided to start my New Moon by writing down all the feelings, habits, people and paranoia I no longer want in my life. What I clearly no longer want in my life is unnecessary stress and the feeling that I won’t be able to get things done. That is something I am working on since it got ‘serious’ in High School. You can imagine how relieving it felt to me, when I burned that stress bitch down! (just kidding here, stress has its good sides too) (anyway, I enjoyed burning that piece of paper to ashesss).

What do you no longer want in your life? Who are the people who make your life harder or who draw all the energy from you without adding some to your life? Which are the habits that you have become aware of and no longer want because they don’t add value to your daily life? Sit down and really take time to think about these things, write them on a piece of paper, light a candle (maybe even a candle in the color that’ll bring some magic to you; I choose purple because it radiates empowerment, ambitions, dreams (see http://galadarling.com/article/new-moon-magic-january-2015/) and then focus on that flame. Really take your time, put yourself in the mood for it. If you want to get rid of the feeling of helplessness, remember a situation where you felt this emotion, imagine it as vivid as possible; Then, put it into the flames, watch how the flames eat up your burden. Watch the helplessness end in smoke. Can you feel the ease yet?

I really hope for you to shake off some old strain and start fresh and recovered into the rest of your life. It’s wort it.

With all my heart, I wish you a wonderful day and I hope

that you make some magic today 🙂

Yours sincerely,

Josephine

What’s my age again?

I just did a test on how old I am.

Do you ever think about “acting your age” or that you should do things differently, think about how you acted when you were younger and kind of which you still were this person?

Well, I don’t. Okay, I don’t want to lie, there are these days where I catch myself thinking that when I was younger, everything seemed to be so much easier. The truth is, however, that I was shy, self-conscious, didn’t dare to say what I wanted and constantly told people what they wanted to hear. I didn’t speak my mind, I spoke what I thought was theirs.

So, today I did this very trustworthy looking test which includes six questions from different, let’s call them, “disciplines”. Six questions and you know my age? Damn, that must be one efficient test.

While I was doing the test I observed myself answering the questions. Was I answering the way I thought I would have to in order to get my actual age as a result? Was I answering according to what I thought would be the most favorable answer? Indeed, one question got my attention for more than one second. I had to choose a band. The selections were marvelous: The Rolling Stones, Nirvana, Mozart or Justin Bieber. Wait, what?

I was thinking “Ok, I really used to like to listen to Nirvana, but I haven’t listened to them for at least 4 years now (at least not deliberately), Rolling Stones? These guys rock but never really listen to them (shame on me, sorry). Justin Bieber, yeah right.” And my final thought: “Oh, this is so bad. I love Mozart. Picking him for my answer will make me gain so many years.” But honestly, choosing Mozart felt so right. So I chose Mozart. I am sure, a few years earlier I would have chosen Nirvana, because they are the cool kids. And I’m sure I would have thought that somebody I knew would be able to see my answers and that would be the bitter end for my reputation. Yes, I used to be a little paranoid.

Anyway, I chose Mozart. Do you know what age I got?

Forty-freaking-four.

Now I wanted to see which “mistakes” I made and I decided to test this little test. How did it work?

And I have to tell you: It wasn’t Mozart. All this not because of good-old Mozart.

The second time I did the test, I decided to choose Nirvana instead of Mozart, this time my estimated age was 27.

The third time I did it, I decided to choose Justin Bieber. This is a completely surreal scenario, just to remind you. This time I got 20. My actual age. Ouch.

The fourth time I did it, I decided to choose The Rolling Stones, this time: 55.

55? Why would you be older when you like The Rolling Stones than when you’re in favor of Mozart?

I did the test once more, this time I stayed with Mozart but changed my favored drink from coffee to beer. And this, my lovely reader, presented me with an estimated age of 21.

I wonder which logic lies behind this highly-reliable seeming test.

You want to try it? Have some fun on here: http://www.applicazer.com/lols/guess_age/index.php?lang=de&retried=1

Have an amazing day,

Josephine

Radical Self-Love //Day Three

Hello my wonderful reader,

first of all, I want to tell you how amazing and special you are. You are unique, beautiful, fantastic and you carry magic inside yourself. Never, ever forget that.

I am currently receiving daily e-mails by Gala Darling as I wanted to spoil myself with her 30 Days of Radical Self-Love Letters. Today’s letter is themed: How can you crowd out the bad with the good in your own life? Yesterday I told you about a mistake I made and I am still struggling with it. Seems to me that this letter came to me in the right moment.

Do you know this feeling of shame? And the helplessness that comes with it? That’s exactly how I feel right now, and, oh, this is not a feeling anyone deserves. I, personally, believe that shame is a social construct. Have you ever thought about your younger self, let’s say when you were three or four years old? Did you feel ashamed by things you did? Or were it your parents or surroundings teaching you shame?

I don’t know it for sure, but to me it feels very much that shame is rather nurture than nature.

Anyway, my quest for today is focusing on the positive, on a compliment I got or on a task I did well. Or just what makes me the special and fantastic person I am. I wholeheartedly invite you to come with me and re-discover your very own awesomeness.

Wonderful things in my life

My wonderful mother who stays by my side no matter what. It doesn’t matter what nonsense I talk or do, she loves me unconditionally and that is the boldest and most amazing thing a mother can do.

My friend Esther. We have known each other since we were sweet little baby girls. I made my way to her place today, through all the snow and with all the busses that didn’t come, and we watched some hilarious videos from the past (one shows me pretending a like some super dry pastry, “mmh…just a little bit dry maybe”). Whenever I am with her time flies and it’s the most amazing experience to have a friend like her.

Baking. Uuh, how I love backing! Don’t you think that the act of baking is pure muse and meditation? I strongly believe so. And the Bonus: you create little masterpieces of deliciousness. Yep, I am so damn right.

Oh and I am so totally grateful for and in love with Berlin. Where ever you go in Berlin, there’s inspiration waiting behind every corner, incredible people from all around the world coming together, there are numerous bakeries, vegan restaurants, gelato places, Burger aficionados, and even -wait for it- a Cat Cafe! Do I have to say more?

Today especially I am so appreciating the book “Quiet- The Power of Introverts In A World That Can’t Stop Talking” by Susan Cain. If you’re interested I am very willing to post more about her book on here!

Where ever you are, what ever you’re doing right now: Be proud of your life, focus on the positive and get some chocolate/ ice cream/ insert your favorite treat here -and enjoy the rest of your day!

With all my heart,

Josephine